I am a firm believer in Democracy, Equality (not sameness) and pouring some Love on top of everything... in all aspects of my life. I do my damnedest to avoid being a hypocrite. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander in my universe. Why else do you think I offer full body waxing services to both males and females? It’s my attempt at showing the world that I am for equal rights. I don’t just talk the talk...I wax everybody!
People are hurting right now and trust me; I get it. People are terrified right now, and I understand that too. And some folks are celebrating, and I can dig it. The past 12 months leading up to this election have been emotionally brutal. As an optimistic entrepreneur, I live for moments of clarity like the one gifted us this past Tuesday. I am sure some of you are thinking…”Here comes Tiffany with her psycho-babble bull crap”. That moment was a gift, and there is something that can be learned. It’s just going to take some soul-searching on our part as individuals.
When things don’t go the way we’d hoped, the way we dreamed, or even the way we prayed for. We have to look at ourselves and ask questions. Were my expectations unrealistic? Why am I resistant to things going in a different direction? And the most critical question of all...What am I afraid of and why?
When I have to process heavy things. I take a piece of paper, and I write the “What am I afraid of and why?” Across the top of the paper and I list all of the reasons that I am afraid and why. Then I read them back to myself. That helps me process my fear. I now have two choices. I can continue with my fear, or I can release it. Most of the time I choose to release it.
I gave up a long time ago on trying to control people. And I opted for better understanding why people do what they do. I have family members that voted for Hillary Clinton, that voted third party, that didn’t vote at all, and those that voted for President-Elect Donald Trump. We are all over the place when it comes to our political views. It makes for exciting family dinners and facebook conversations...hahaha
All I am doing at this point is lmao and loving my family. My great uncle’s facebook post in reaction to Donald Trump winning the election is hysterical. I had tears streaming down my face from laughing so hard at him say that he didn’t even think that Trump would win, and he voted for him anyway. And my aunt’s reaction to finding out that he voted for Donald Trump...was even more hilarious. Do they have me doubled over laughing, yes. Are either of them wrong for voting for the person they believe is most suitable for the task at hand, no. Here's why...I genuinely believe in democracy, equality, and putting some love on top of everything. And I do my damnedest to avoid being a hypocrite ;).
Here's What I Know
I love my uncle and my auntie so fiercely that I don’t care that we were divided on this political matter, because at the end of the day we are still family. And I love my family! I hope that every person on this planet can make enough space in their heart for the people in their lives to be themselves, even if you don’t agree with them. Unless they are hairy...then they need to be waxed end of story! hehe hehe
To be honest, if you don't like something about your current situation...change it! That's what entrepreneurs do. We look for opportunity in every case. We see the obstacles that face us, and we tackle that ish head on. We plan, and we execute. And we are willing to do the horse's load of the work.
I had the privilege of speaking to several of my friends that are entrepreneurs the day after the election, and there was a common thread in every conversation...We are going to keep working our plans. I am headed to California tomorrow to #workmyplan. I will be speaking about the culture of sexual assault in America at three events this month. It's all part of me #workingmyplan. And if you don't have a plan may I suggest that you create one and work the hell out of it. You will thank me later.
Here's a link video from serial entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk. The message is to Be What You Can Be.
Optimistic silver-lined sidebar: I am beyond geeked that two women were running for president on the ballot in 42 states. This is something to be proud of for those of us that fight for equal rights. Women have only been allowed to vote in this country since 1920. That's progress I am proud of. It's because of the sacrifices of women like Ida B. Wells, Susan B. Anthony, Madame CJ Walker, and Ella Frances Gross (my paternal grandmother) that I can do what I do.
For what it’s worth, I love you!